The cost of codependency in the coaching world.

This is not the soothing kind of medicine. This is the piercing kind. The kind that cuts the cord.

Codependency doesn’t just live in relationships.

It hides in teachings. In movements. In language that sounds empowering but actually keeps you small.

Codependency is what happens when truth is delivered with a hook.

When you say, “You are powerful”, but you need someone to agree.

When you teach sovereignty, but crave validation for the teaching.

When you speak the truth, but only if the crowd claps.

That’s not power.

That’s entanglement.

That’s performance.

And it’s not just the speaker. The whole system is built on mutual need.

The teacher needs to be received. The student needs to be saved.

Each reinforcing the other’s lack.

Each playing a role in a theatre called “growth.”

This is the root of the healing loop.

Because if you still need to be received, you’re not whole.

You’re playing a part to get something back.

Approval. Belonging. Safety.

Even if the words are clean, the energy is distorted.

I’ve watched this play out.

I’ve done this.

I’ve seen how even truth when not fully owned becomes another hook.

So I pulled back. Not to isolate, but to anchor.

I stopped offering truth from the wound.

I started creating truth from the I AM.

Unhooked. Untethered. Unapologetic.

When you are no longer in codependent exchange with your audience, your clients, your readers, your reflections; you’re finally free.

Not free to scream louder.

Free to speak in silence.

Free to be unfazed by response.

Free to create, not seek.

This is not rebellion. This is reclamation.

I do not need your agreement to know what is true.

I do not need your applause to claim my seat.

I do not need you to reflect me when I already see.

When that lands; when it’s fully in the body everything changes.

Creation becomes clean.

Teaching becomes transmission.

Presence becomes power.

And you?

You stop waiting to be received.

Because you’ve already chosen yourself.