Why men really don’t listen. And how truth changes that.

From hesitation to impact: the energetic reason voices land.

Most women think it’s about representation. It isn’t. The reason men don’t listen is energetic and truth changes everything.

Today, I came across a reel by Fearne Cotton (well known UK female presenter) about podcasting. She was sharing that statistically, men tend to listen mostly to men, while women listen to both men and women. On the surface, it looks like a problem of representation: men’s voices get amplified, women’s voices don’t.

But here’s what hit me: the thread underneath her post revealed something even bigger.

So many women were speaking about inequality, lack of support or misrepresentation. And here’s the truth about energy: the field doesn’t hear “I don’t want this.” It only hears the frequency you’re broadcasting. When the focus is on what isn’t working, you amplify exactly that.

That is why the voices don’t land.

Because contrast this with a woman fully embodied in her truth a woman who speaks clearly, directly, unapologetically, with presence. She doesn’t water herself down, she doesn’t fluff or justify. She speaks from her energy, anchored in her body.

That’s when her words land with power.

That’s when her energy draws in anyone who’s aligned; men, women, it doesn’t matter.

Truth doesn’t need filters. Truth doesn’t need explanation.

The problem isn’t representation. It isn’t even audience bias. The real shift comes when a woman is fully embodied in her presence. From there, she doesn’t have to push or convince; the field reorganises around her. People listen. Doors open. Influence happens.

So here’s the invitation:

Stop fuelling what you don’t want.

Stop broadcasting lack.

Anchor fully in your truth and speak from there.

Presence over complaint.

Embodiment over hesitation.

That’s how impact is created.

From my own experience, I know this in my bones because I once chose to water myself down. In my marriage, when my clarity and directness weren’t received, I conditioned myself to believe my voice wasn’t welcome. No one silenced me, I silenced myself. I chose to soften my edges, to hesitate instead of stand anchored in truth.

But here’s what I’ve discovered: that clarity, that directness, that unapologetic presence… it was never my weakness.

It was my superpower.

And when I stopped filtering, when I chose to embody truth without hesitation, everything shifted.

My words began to land powerfully.

Men, women, it didn’t matter. Alignment drew them in, because truth doesn’t discriminate. It resonates.

That’s why I know: the problem was never representation. The real shift happens the moment you stop diluting yourself and start embodying your truth. That’s when doors open. That’s when people listen. That’s when influence becomes inevitable.

Here’s the link to instagram for Fearne’s conversation spark… ⚡️